Mumbai: If you think your sex life is thrilling and satisfying, think again! According to a recent study by Dailymail it is easier for the same sex people to reach orgasm easily during sex.
It’s just us poor old straight women who miss out. The sizeable study (2850 men and women) asked participants to estimate how often they reached orgasm with a partner.
The score for men was 85.1 per cent of the time, compared to a measly 62.9 for women. Broken down to gay vs. straight, the men’s score barely shifted: it altered by less than one per cent.
Straight women said they had orgasms with their partner 61.6 per cent of the time; that shot up to 74.7 percent for lesbians.
Researchers conclude the reason is because straight couples tend to focus on intercourse – an unreliable route to orgasm because there’s no clitoral stimulation.
How do we have what they’re having?
Don’t make intercourse the main event. Because there isn’t a penis (or a male ego) and the clitoris is outside, penetrative sex isn’t the be all and end all for lesbians.
Don’t be rushed. Women know women take longer to orgasm than men do, so are more patient and less likely to put the pressure on their partner to get a move on.
Don’t be lazy. Lesbians tend not to split into ‘giver’ and ‘taker’ roles in bed. Both take turns. Lazy lovers aren’t a huge hit with gays or heterosexuals.
Stop thinking of sex as having a beginning, middle and end. Because women can have many orgasms in the one sex session, there’s no definite ending. It can take as long as you like, with as many orgasms as you like. Have more foreplay.